pain associated with embracing false notions
which are really not observed by any culture in the
world, and to advise those who erroneously
sentence themselves to a life of sadness and
emptiness because they were deceived to believe
that there is some utopia somewhere called
monogamy.
I am very much aware that this article will generate
a lot of controversy most especially from those
who live holier-than-thou life and have continued
to deceive the world that they are upholders of a
doctrine that is not supported by true and
enlightened interpretation of any religious doctrine.
The white men, I am yet to see any human being
whose skin colour is like that of chalk, came and
told the unfortunate lands they invaded that the
cherished cultures, traditions and religions of such
lands were rubbish, and instead indoctrinated them
with values which they themselves never believed
in or truly practiced. We know of King Henry Vlll,
and several major historical figures in ‘Christian’
Europe who had more than one wife in addition of
a string of wives who their ‘laws’ forbade them to
address as wives but who nonetheless perform all
the functions of wife minus name.
God bless President Mitterrand who openly
confessed to having two women in his life, with
the one in the other house with whom he fathered
an 18-year-old daughter at the time he passed on.
I have schooled, worked and lived virtually in all
the continents of the world and I make bold to say
with all emphasis at my disposal that no culture on
planet earth truly practices monogamy. My Greek,
Italian, Russian, British, American and other
Caucasians routinely visit their other wives [called
by other names] with whom they have children. But
back in the homes shared with the one carrying the
ring, they are monogamists!
If God had wanted humanity to be monogamous
He or She would not have made the pigeon the
only monogamous creature.
The cultures that practice polygamy had always
known that at any given time, the number of
available marriageable women far out number
available men plus the fact that an 80-year-old
man, if he has money, is still very much in the
market whereas a 60-year-old woman may not be
that lucky. The biological limitation to a woman’s
productive age is also a factor. Why should a
woman therefore remain on the shelf till age 45
when she could jolly well get married as second or
sixth wife to a man who can afford to share life’s
responsibilities with her? Why should a woman
leave a man with whom she is No 1, simply
because took a second wife and end up being
numberless in the hands of several men with
whom she naturally shares bed just because of
some doctrine she hardly understands?
All the women who should go and marry but are
saying they do not want to share their man with
another woman in a polygamous setting, are
sharing current boyfriends with several other
women. Where is the logic?
The argument that children in a polygamous house
are always at each other’s throat does not hold
water. Many siblings of monogamous families are
known to have had worse and irresolvable,
irreconcilable squabble, with dirty bitterness over
inheritance than children from different mothers.
The agony suffered by both men and women in the
hand of unnatural laws and doctrines is too stifling
for comfort. In 2002, five hundred and two
Reverend mothers were reported to have died
while procuring abortion in Rome. Nigerian Tribune
wrote an editorial on the unfortunate incident. And
stories of Reverend fathers having children and
sodomising young men in their care are legion!
Why the hypocrisy? Why should the world continue
to live the life of Ostrich?
A well known Nigerian journalist hid his other wives
from his wife because his religion would not permit
of it and his wife, living in monogamy should not
hear of it. At his funeral 9 Funeral Service
programmes by his 9 wives surfaced and the
woman parading the ring collapsed. It was the
grace of God that prevented double interment that
day!
The Western world which had not learnt the art of
living amicably with more than one partner under
the same roof has indulged in multiple serial
marriages, divorcing innocent wives under flimsy
excuses so that another woman can move in
should not be measure of standard for the world.
Thank God Mrs Hillary Clinton in the US and Mrs
Cook in England were very much wiser. They
refused to allow some indiscretion on the part of
their husbands to ruin their marriages.
There was a well known American actor who
passed on about a decade ago and all his 11 ex-
wives with their numerous children attended his
funeral. To ridicule the lie of their hypocritical
existence, all the women were recognised and
addressed as wives. As far as records show, the
man had 11 wives!
Society must rethink this issue of pretentious
monogamy vis-à-vis polygamy so that in the not-
too-distant future we do not end up with millions
of unmarried women whose life style would be
worse than prostitutes’ and millions of children
whose fathers would be nowhere to be found.
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